tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8530891922136686493.post869579564160450515..comments2023-05-01T07:30:56.565-07:00Comments on Seasons Of Sovereignty: Teaching Kids To Pray For Their Special SomeoneAliciahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09804353351160018502noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8530891922136686493.post-37994153491924922812008-09-02T19:40:00.000-07:002008-09-02T19:40:00.000-07:00Yes, it did help. Thank you for responding!AmberYes, it did help. Thank you for responding!<BR/><BR/>AmberAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8530891922136686493.post-85707043249196620262008-09-01T12:31:00.000-07:002008-09-01T12:31:00.000-07:00Amber-Thanks for asking. You know, I believe some ...Amber-<BR/>Thanks for asking. <BR/>You know, I believe some of these things are like saying exactly what you will do the next ten years of your life. Some of the details you go on your knees about once you get there. <BR/>To answer some things specifically....<BR/>Right now our thoughts are to not let here date one on one until she is 18. We feel one on one dating is a means to an end of marriage and I would not advise her to marry before 18. Before that, she is welcome to go in groups, or with adults present or even possibly double date if we approve the situation and setting. I would have to feel out details when the time came. <BR/>I do believe that kissing on the lips should be saved for after a commitment to be married has been given. Even then, I would support if she wanted to wait even on that. By the time she is engaged she is going to need to make these decisions herself, but this would be my advise to her. Always remember that an engagement can end, and in that the brother/sister rule is a fool proof way of no regrets. Passionate embracing, I do believe is a dangerous ground and I would not advise it before engagement at all. Even after engagement I would advise against it just as I would not advise her to get as close as she could to a forest fire. It is alo a means to an end goal of intimacy and we have to be mature enough to know what it's building purpose is and when our brians stop using normal processes and switch to harmonal impulse. <BR/>I would not let her go out to lunch with a boy at 15 or 16 unless her father and I were driving them, and at the other end of the place. Remember, my belief is that dating is an end to a means of marriage and I would not approve a marriage at 15 or 16. The teen years are a time to get to know the opposite sex under the guise of friendship and brotherhood, sisterhood. The only other definition is romance and that is for those who are ready to be wed. <BR/>I understand that it is a much clearer line than most people make but I see the same problems with encouraging romantic dating at 16 that I see at 10. All maner of romantic behavior would be inappropriate because of the same reason, she is not ready to be married. <BR/>The bible says to not let the marriage bed be defiled in Heb. 13:4<BR/>4Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure..<BR/><BR/>One way to keep that marriage bed pure is to teach them to show the same restraint they would after marriage..for see, in God's eyes, they belong to someone now just as they will then. I would not go out and passionately embrace a man or kiss him on the lips...because he is not my husband, he is my brother in the Lord. It is the same deal before hand only more triky as the engagement time proceeds. <BR/>If passionate kissing and embracing make one want to do things that are done in marriage...then yes, I will advise my daughter to be on her guard. Once she is an adult, I can only advise and pray. I can't tell her what to do. <BR/>God is good to work all for His glory..we don't have to be afraid. Even if mistakes are made along the way (though we strive for purity, His glory, and wisdom) He is faithful. I will not be uptight and judgemental, but I will strive to point my children to truth and purity. So that they may receive the fullest blessing in their marriage that God want's for them. That's what I want for them most, His full blessing through obedience.<BR/>Does that help?Aliciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09804353351160018502noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8530891922136686493.post-9921295087460472442008-09-01T11:23:00.000-07:002008-09-01T11:23:00.000-07:00This is indeed, a very interesting topic. I'm a ne...This is indeed, a very interesting topic. I'm a new reader and so i wasn't sure exactly how old Princess is - i'm guessing by her picture, maybe 5th or 6th grade??<BR/><BR/>I'm wondering if you could answer a couple of questions, just because i'm really curious about this topic. Are you saying that even when Princess enters into a serious adult relationship, that she is not to kiss on the lips? What if she is engaged to her future husband? Are they supposed to wait until after marriage to kiss or even passionately embrace? Have you chosen a specific age in which she might be allowed to start dating? Say when she's 15 or 16 would she be allowed to go out for lunch with a boy she was interested in, or would that not be appropriate? (Sorry for so many questions!)<BR/><BR/>I hope this doesn't have a sarcastic or rude "feeling" to it, by the way, if we were having a discussion in person you could see that, ha ha! :)<BR/><BR/>PS - Good for her for telling that boy that she wasn't interested! That story made me laugh. At least she got a fancy-schmancy pencil out of the deal...:)<BR/><BR/>Amber (i live in s.l.o. county)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8530891922136686493.post-6684615829105633982008-08-31T21:22:00.000-07:002008-08-31T21:22:00.000-07:00Great post. I agree with you about treating the o...Great post. I agree with you about treating the opposite sex as brothers. I too wish someone had told me that when I was in college. It's a pretty clear guideline.Christinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08103982632248684489noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8530891922136686493.post-16243100223297535882008-08-31T17:01:00.000-07:002008-08-31T17:01:00.000-07:00I have been praying for my kids future mate for a ...I have been praying for my kids future mate for a while now. I have mentioned to Iw that he should pray for his future wife. I also pray that God will give my kids the desire to wait for the person that He has chosen for them.Triciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11300158329657912671noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8530891922136686493.post-70169517058828014142008-08-31T14:17:00.000-07:002008-08-31T14:17:00.000-07:00I think that this is a great idea. I already pray ...I think that this is a great idea. I already pray for them and that the Lord will protect their hearts until the right one comes along.<BR/><BR/>Having them pray too might make it more real to them that God wants them to wait for the RIGHT one, not just someone.Zimms Zoohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07671798321373854716noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8530891922136686493.post-11572865322249353242008-08-31T07:51:00.000-07:002008-08-31T07:51:00.000-07:00cute picture!!this is such an interesting topic! i...cute picture!!<BR/><BR/>this is such an interesting topic! i feel like we are so far from having to deal with these issues, and yet i know it comes so fast (and earlier and earlier each generation!). these are good thoughts. thanks for sharing! i started praying for my future husband when i was 16, when the speaker at camp encouraged me to start that. little did i know little mikie borland, whom i probably joked around with that very same day, had been praying for me (specifically me) for two years already! it's a wonderful thing that truly prepares you and works on your heart.<BR/><BR/>just last night mike and i were talking about these decisions we are going to have to make with regard to our little girl--when she can get her ears pierced, when she can wear make-up and shave her legs, etc., not to mention dating! we definitely feel these things should wait as long as possible and until she's ready to handle them. i can already feel myself starting to make double standards for our girls and boys because the issues are so different! mike was asking me who taught me about dressing modestly and if it was explained to me why it was so important, and we went through all that. i think these things can slide by if you don't know ahead of time how you want to tackle them and what your rules are (and how committed you are to sticking to them).Kristen Borlandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15486728360253790578noreply@blogger.com